Whatever phase of depression – Just Be There ..
Although we talk about depression and mental health less anyway but when we do talk about depression, people who understand it are there for you.
But they are there when it hurts very much and when they see us crying or sobbing.
Everyone asks when one breaks down and have suggestions or are there to just be there.
When you are numbing yourself with alcohol or using drugs,some will say its wrong and others and just be there to let you pass the phase.
When you cry hysterically they will be there.
But no one is there when you just go quiet.
No would be there to talk about when you just sit on your bed and stare at a wall constantly, trying to fill that hole which you have inside you.
No one would be there, when you don’t want to do things you like to do usually,
No one would be there when you see yourself in the mirror and you think who is this person,
No one would be there when you stop enjoying your own music and you ask yourself what is wrong with me,
No one would be there when you ask yourself when would you smile again,
No one would be there to answer when you ask yourself, why i cannot get better,
Just no one .. So you sit and stare a wall and just eagerly wait for the day to end.
And the person who is in this phase feels horrible, empty, lonely, scared, abandoned and guilty at the same time that another day has passed. But then days and weeks pass by and the person feels they are stuck in a cycle.
And the loop gets bigger and bigger, days become weeks and weeks turns into months.
Sometimes I feel this is a never ending cycle and nothing would ever work.
So I sit and stare at a wall and refuse to recognise myself in the mirror.
But while writing this I do hold just a hope and pray that just one day – and just one day – i recognise the one I see in the mirror.
Just be there with the person if someone you know has gone quiet. Just be there because they need you.
Just a simple message from your very busy schedule would make them feel a little alive.
So next time you know someone who is going thru shit and have gone quiet – Just Be There